This quarantine / lockdown is an opportunity to reflect, introspect and create a new level of authenticity in relationships. Last three years I have researched on my tendency to avoid conflict and criticisms. I found ways to go beyond my need for approval and pleasing people.
The lessons learnt on authenticity in this process have transformed my life and relationships. In our workshops for leaders we created a module: “Authentic dialogue – handling elephants in the room”. Here participants learn to resolve real life conflicts. This has become one of the most profound and popular modules in our workshops.
In these 60 minutes you will learn:
This webinar contains essence of my book: ‘Hi Conflict! Bye Conflict!’, scheduled to release in August 2020. I have included my profile and a short write up about the book at the end of this email, in case you wish to forward this email to others.
See you soon in one of the sessions.
About the speaker
Rohan Singal is a workplace collaboration specialist, trainer and author. He has trained and mentored more than 4000 individuals. He is an MBA from IIM Calcutta and BTech from IIT Delhi.
Rohan is on a Mission - 1 million A.P.I.: to help more than a million lives to enhance Authenticity in relationships, Surface true Potential and Prosperity, Boost inner Immunity.
He is co-founder of Rejoiss Learning, a leadership training firm. He and his team help leaders globally to enhance their ownership of results and relationship and convert conflict into collaboration.
In his 27 years of experience, he has played role of an employee, employer, consultant and trainer. He has worked for ICICI Bank in project finance & treasury and with Proctor & Gamble in logistics. He has consulted with many reputed organizations and has also experienced a ‘start-up to sale’ cycle with a technology company as co-founder.
After living most of his life avoiding conflict, confrontation and criticism, he has discovered that in conflict and confrontation lies the key to authentic relationships and collaboration. His E.A.R. framework (Diffusing conflict by an authentic dialogue with Empathy, Authenticity & Respect) has been successfully implemented by many organizations.
Follow him on his blog: http://www.rohansingal.com/
Linked in profile: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rohan-singal-b165a5/
Hi Conflict! Bye Conflict!
How to get teams to collaborate despite conflict
In Hi conflict, Bye Conflict, Rohan Singal shares with you a simple and proven framework for turning any conflict into collaboration. This framework will help you create collaborative, authentic teams who channelize their energy towards top performance. Using this knowledge, you will be able to empower your teams to resolve conflicts themselves, instead of escalating or letting them fester. It will thus free your time and mind space for bigger goals and new ideas.
The framework can be used to build enriching, joyful, open relationships, not only at work but also at personal level.
This book is for business leaders. It facilitates a paradigm shift in thinking and approach on how to engage in difficult conversations. It integrates empathy, authenticity and respect to create an authentic dialogue in any situation.
This book also includes Rohan’s interviews with successful leaders, and their insights on how to transform unresolved conflicts to collaborative relationships.
Wednesday, 15 April 2020
Thursday, 19 March 2020
How have the current developments impacted your work and life in general? Hope you and your family members are safe. This might be one of the rarest times where you would be faced with unprecedented number of urgent decisions.
In current turbulent times, it is important that we find creative ways to respond, so that our inner immunity is strengthened. We have a choice between “Life is a tiger” v/s “All is well” response. Our thoughts have a great impact on our immunity. Even if we are eating healthiest, nutritious food, if we do it under stress, our body shuts down the cell walls. Nutrition exchange is blocked. Our immunity system army gets diverted to manage the stress and becomes sub-optimal in defending against viruses.
How about finding creative ways and take actions that will keep you in the positive mode? You can turn around these times as most memorable and progressive times instead of being forced away from your normal life routine.
Here are some interesting ways that you can consider experimenting with, each of a different type:
Something you can do alone, something you can do with one online guide and something you can do online with a group.
1. Visualize a protection shield:
Whenever I feel any kind of danger, I find the following affirmation very reassuring.
“Let a protection shield be installed around <names>. A white light and love energy be passed through them and purify the configuration of <names>. This shield protects <names> from any negative energy or illness. So it is now.”
People with whom I have shared this, have reported feeling calmer and more able to take rational decisions after they used this affirmation.
2. Write Morning Pages:
Inspired by The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron,Me & Ruchi started this daily practice 10 days ago. We find it extremely useful. All worries, concerns, ruminating thoughts, anything that comes to the mind, just download them on the paper. If nothing comes to your mind, scribble that thought all the way in 3 pages. Here is how Julia explains it:
“Morning Pages are three pages of longhand, stream of consciousness writing, done first thing in the morning. There is no wrong way to do Morning Pages – they are not high art. They are not even “writing.” They are about anything and everything that crosses your mind – and they are for your eyes only. Morning Pages provoke, clarify, comfort, cajole, prioritize and synchronize the day at hand. Do not over-think Morning Pages: just put three pages of anything on the page...and then do three more pages tomorrow.”.
Hear it from the author on this link: https://juliacameronlive.com/basic-tools/morning-pages/
3. Thanking your body: a 30 minute meditation
We have joined a 5-month online meditation course with Nithya Shanti. 3 days a week we do a guided online meditation for 30 minutes at 5:30 am. It’s a great way to start the day with calm and new insights.
One of the recent sessions was about connecting with your body parts and acknowledging them one by one. That session was so insightful that is has been made public. Click on the link below to access the video.
4. Soulful conversations and connections: Differentiate between social distancing and physical distancing: A friend Anjan shared a message today that resonated with me. Here is an excerpt:
“What a wonderful time to socially connect:
Yes, there is a need to practice PHYSICAL DISTANCING in the manner and intensity that works for each of us: However, we needn’t socially distance. In fact, it’s time to connect more now, with all the extra time on hand.
How about connecting with friends, family, people from across the world using the several digital tools & technology available to us. Long chit-chats with friends, Skype calls with our parents who would love to share so much but with our work schedules we never had time to listen, the overdue gossip chats with our besties, group hangout with your university alumni, and so many other creative ways to spread love, to share, to cry/laugh and to find strength! Wouldn’t this be a great way to live, and promote wellness consciousness?”
Wishing you all the best for a greater inner immunity. May your thoughts and actions make you a magnet for your wellness. You may want to read this blog I wrote in September 2016: on 3 simple ways to enhance our internal immunity to safeguard from illnesses:
Tuesday, 18 February 2020
Consider the following statement by Shawn Achor, a Harvard Lecturer:
“... a study of over 350 employees in 60 business units at a financial services company found that the greatest predictor of a team’s achievement was how the members felt about one another.”
Many corporate professionals may say that they have no time for this touchy-feely stuff, they have bigger goals to achieve. We have discovered that the impact each leader has on his/her colleagues is a critical parameter that contributes to team’s success.
As mentioned in my last email, we found a way to measure that impact in a secret ballot, authentic way and created Rejoiss Leadership index. We use the terms “Encouraging”, “Transactional” and “Discouraging” to categorise the impact and influence people have on each other.
The results of Rejoiss Leadership Index surveys conducted across the world, show that more than 40% of relationships among colleagues were transactional: neither encouraging, nor discouraging.
We are often asked how to convert transactional relationships to empowering ones without interfering or sounding fake? One answer to that question is: with conversations which show your interest and care for the other person.
Conversations topics like politics, sports, financial markets, business etc. are popular. However, they don’t give us the opportunity to know the real person and hence keeps the relationship at a transactional level.
Here are some conversation starters you can experiment with to invoke personal experience sharing without intruding:
Find more such questions on https://thefamilydinnerproject.org/conversation/ .
May this mail give you new clues to build stronger empowering connections in your life, first at the family dinner table, then with friends and colleagues.