Thursday, 19 March 2020

Four suggestions to stay calm in curent times

Dear Reader,

How have the current developments impacted your work and life in general? Hope you and your family members are safe. This might be one of the rarest times where you would be faced with unprecedented number of urgent decisions.

In current turbulent times, it is important that we find creative ways to respond, so that our inner immunity is strengthened. We have a choice between “Life is a tiger” v/s “All is well” response. Our thoughts have a great impact on our immunity. Even if we are eating healthiest, nutritious food, if we do it under stress, our body shuts down the cell walls. Nutrition exchange is blocked. Our immunity system army gets diverted to manage the stress and becomes sub-optimal in defending against viruses.  

How about finding creative ways and take actions that will keep you in the positive mode? You can turn around these times as most memorable and progressive times instead of being forced away from your normal life routine.

Here are some interesting ways that you can consider experimenting with, each of a different type:
Something you can do alone, something you can do with one online guide and something you can do online with a group.

1.     Visualize a protection shield:
Whenever I feel any kind of danger, I find the following affirmation very reassuring.

“Let a protection shield be installed around <names>. A white light and love energy be passed through them and purify the configuration of <names>. This shield protects <names> from any negative energy or illness. So it is now.”

People with whom I have shared this, have reported feeling calmer and more able to take rational decisions after they used this affirmation.  

2.     Write Morning Pages:
Inspired by The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron, Me & Ruchi started this daily practice 10 days ago. We find it extremely useful. All worries, concerns, ruminating thoughts, anything that comes to the mind, just download them on the paper. If nothing comes to your mind, scribble that thought all the way in 3 pages. Here is how Julia explains it:

“Morning Pages are three pages of longhand, stream of consciousness writing, done first thing in the morning. There is no wrong way to do Morning Pages – they are not high art. They are not even “writing.” They are about anything and everything that crosses your mind – and they are for your eyes only. Morning Pages provoke, clarify, comfort, cajole, prioritize and synchronize the day at hand. Do not over-think Morning Pages: just put three pages of anything on the page...and then do three more pages tomorrow.”.

Hear it from the author on this link:

3.     Thanking your body: a 30 minute meditation
We have joined a 5-month online meditation course with Nithya Shanti. 3 days a week we do a guided online meditation for 30 minutes at 5:30 am. It’s a great way to start the day with calm and new insights.

One of the recent sessions was about connecting with your body parts and acknowledging them one by one. That session was so insightful that is has been made public. Click on the link below  to access the video.


4.     Soulful conversations and connections: Differentiate between social distancing and physical distancing: A friend Anjan shared a message today that resonated with me. Here is an excerpt:

“What a wonderful time to socially connect:
Yes, there is a need to practice PHYSICAL DISTANCING in the manner and intensity that works for each of us: However, we needn’t socially distance. In fact, it’s time to connect more now, with all the extra time on hand.

How about connecting with friends, family, people from across the world using the several digital tools & technology available to us. Long chit-chats with friends, Skype calls with our parents who would love to share so much but with our work schedules we never had time to listen, the overdue gossip chats with our besties, group hangout with your university alumni, and so many other creative ways to spread love, to share, to cry/laugh and to find strength! Wouldn’t this be a great way to live, and promote wellness consciousness?”

Wishing you all the best for a greater inner immunity. May your thoughts and actions make you a magnet for your wellness. You may want to read this blog I wrote in September 2016: on 3 simple ways to enhance our internal immunity to safeguard from illnesses:

Warm regards,


Tuesday, 18 February 2020

Creating quality connections one conversation at a time

Dear Reader,

Consider the following statement by Shawn Achor, a Harvard Lecturer:

“... a study of over 350 employees in 60 business units at a financial services company found that the greatest predictor of a team’s achievement was how the members felt about one another.” 

Many corporate professionals may say that they have no time for this touchy-feely stuff, they have bigger goals to achieve. We have discovered that the impact each leader has on his/her colleagues is a critical parameter that contributes to team’s success.   

As mentioned in my last email, we found a way to measure that impact in a secret ballot, authentic way and created Rejoiss Leadership index. We use the terms “Encouraging”, “Transactional” and “Discouraging” to categorise the impact and influence people have on each other.

The results of Rejoiss Leadership Index surveys conducted across the world, show that more than 40% of relationships among colleagues were transactional: neither encouraging, nor discouraging.

We are often asked how to convert transactional relationships to empowering ones without interfering or sounding fake? One answer to that question is: with conversations which show your interest and care for the other person.

Conversations topics like politics, sports, financial markets, business etc. are popular. However, they don’t give us the opportunity to know the real person and hence keeps the relationship at a transactional level.

Here are some conversation starters you can experiment with to invoke personal experience sharing without intruding:

May this mail give you new clues to build stronger empowering connections in your life, first at the family dinner table, then with friends and colleagues.


Sunday, 19 January 2020

How Navy Seals choose their team members - Simon Sinek

Dear Reader,

I saw this 7 minutes video by Simon Sinek. It is about why it is important to include trust as a key factor while deciding promotions or bonuses. He shares how Navy Seals, who are one of the best performing teams under most difficult situations, choose their team members. In the corporate world, we often choose and reward team members based on only their results rather than their trustworthiness.

While it is easy to measure business performance, it is unusual and difficult to measure impact of leaders on others.

I have recently interviewed many senior leaders for my upcoming book – Hi Conflict! Bye Conflict! A common theme that emerged was that a good leader is one who people trust, who is authentic, has people’s back and grows others. (S)he has an empowering impact and creates an environment for everyone else to succeed. Such a leader puts team goal ahead of self goal.

5 years back at Rejoiss, we coined a term for such a leader: Priceless Contributor (PC). We recognised that that while focusing on self is essential, it is insufficient recipe for sustained success. Your true success comes when others start rooting for your success. That happens naturally as an outcome of PC practice since you genuinely root for others in their endeavours.

I recall my career at ICICI from campus. No one gave me any clue that only pursuing excellence is no more enough, you need to focus on your team winning over odds, help others to be champions. I got a very low rating once and my bosses could not explain me that the problem was my self-serving attitude.

At Rejoiss, we put together our life’s learnings to find an authentic measure of attitude and enable attitude transformation in leaders. This resulted in creating the Rejoiss Leadership Index. This measures the impact of each team member on others. It can be done in as little as an hour and yet is profound, authentic and relevant. When you club the results with leaders’ business performance, you get exactly the chart Simon Sinek talks about. Rejoiss Leadership Index is a method to bring objectivity into a subjective, yet critical leadership trait.

It has been quite a journey using this index for our clients. The way the exercise is designed, you simply can’t poke hole in the results. This exercise helps leaders recognise their blind spots. This new awareness works silently and many begin to change their attitude. What has been common is that for every team we did this exercise, the sponsors have confirmed that with few surprises, the results reflect the reality very accurately. It has helped them take some critical decisions. To know more about Rejoiss Leaders Index for your teams, reply to me or write to my team at

May this mail give you some clues to recognize your most effective leaders and build a great team.