Here is an interesting exercise that is guaranteed to enrich your close relationships. You can even do it with your spouse to fall in love all over again.
It is claimed
that if 2 people do this exercise diligently, the likelihood of them falling in
love is very high. We picked this from the following article
Here is how the
exercise is to be done:
1. Put aside 1-2 hours for this exercise in a quiet place
2. No distractions
3. No mobiles, music, TV etc.
Step 1 – one
partner reads one question, other partner replies. Then first partner also
answers the question
Step 2 – 2nd
partner reads next question. 1st partner replies, then 2nd
partner also answers the question.
Repeat till you
complete 36 questions.
Caution: Just
reading the questions, doing this exercise in your mind has no benefit. The
true benefit is doing this with your partner.
Wishing you more
enriched partnerships.
But where are
the questions!! They are here:
Here
are the 36 questions!!!
Set I
1. Given the
choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you
like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before
making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What
would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
5. When did
you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you
were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a
30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you
have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name
three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what
in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change
anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes
and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up
tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
Set II
13. If a crystal ball
could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything
else, what would you want to know?
14. Is there something
that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15. What is the greatest
accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value
most in a friendship?
17. What is your most
treasured memory?
18. What is your most
terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in
one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you
are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship
mean to you?
21. What roles do love
and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing
something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a
total of five items.
23. How close and warm
is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other
people’s?
24. How do you feel
about your relationship with your mother?
Set III
25. Make three true “we”
statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... “
26. Complete this
sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “
27. If you were going to
become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important
for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner
what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you
might not say to someone you’ve just met.
29. Share with your
partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last
cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner
something that you like about them already.
32. What, if anything,
is too serious to be joked about?
33. If you were to die
this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you
most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34. Your house,
containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and
pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What
would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in
your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal
problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also,
ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the
problem you have chosen.
