Basics of Healing - A thought provoking article

Wishing you times full of insights, awareness & prosperity ahead.

Let this note find you in best of your health. I came across this article and found it really thought provoking. Some of the ideas are quite revolutionary and if they appeal to our mind, we may be able to create a life with zero illness around us. Please do give it a serious thought.

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The Basics of Healing: Memories from the future of light : By Vijay and Prema Devi

Etymologically the word healing derives from ‘hael’'. It means reaching to wholeness or ‘to make whole’ not only in the physical body but integrally - also in the emotional, mental, and spiritual levels.

Our original state is one of perfect health. All illnesses originate from the illusion that we are separated from the Divine and from who we really are. Therefore all healing involves a return to our centre.

1.    First heal our mind!!

With the exception of some apparently genetic cases which are actually karmic, unless one lives in conditions of extreme poverty, lacking adequate nourishment and hygiene, one's body left to itself remains almost in perfect health.

What sets the body out of balance are all negative or excessive emotions. They are determined by our mind, by all the multilayered conditioning we have absorbed in the past and our stubbornness in finding so many things unacceptable and being attracted to far too many others.

Therefore in order to take care of our emotions we must first heal our mind.  To do so something has to change in our spirit itself. Our mind can then reach the peace and equanimity. This can pacify and harmonize our emotions so that they no longer affect our body negatively.

2.    Fear of awakening!

All forms of sickness, from the slightest disturbances to the most serious life threatening illnesses are always, always without exception, a manifestation in a form of another fear of awakening (as mentioned in “A course in miracles”).

Whenever we reach a level of personal inner growth or evolution that other parts of our being are incapable or unwilling to follow, for whatever reason, this creates a dis-equilibrium of energies weakening the whole system, which opens the door to all kinds of illnesses in its more vulnerable points.

3.    No innocent victim or bad luck..

No illness or disturbance of any kind, at any level, ever comes to us by ‘chance’ or ‘bad luck’. The germs or viruses which appear to be attacking our system are the real cause but actually the result of a breakdown in the body's immune system, whose deeper reasons are to be found in our mind.

The patient is no innocent victim but fully responsible for his illness, although most often unconsciously.

4.    Inner alarm system

Every illness is basically a signal of our inner alarm system telling us that there is a lack of equilibrium, something wrong in our way of living, feeling, thinking and acting; that we lack something we desperately need but may not even be aware of.

If you have an alarm system in your house and one night it goes off because there is a fire or a thief, you would not just switch it off because it disturbs you and go back to sleep, unless you are insane. Yet this is exactly what one does when taking a medicine aimed merely at eliminating the symptom, and do nothing else about it.

The symptom is the alarm system in the house of our body. Until we have first extinguished the fire or chased away the thief somewhere within us the relief of eliminating the symptom can only be temporary and it will sooner or later inevitably come back, whether in the same or another form.

We must become aware of the symptom with perfect equanimity, without any resistance or condemnation, and above all completely without fear.

5.    Change in consciousness.

The symptoms point to something in us which we were unable to see or ... do not want to see. Even if we fully recover from the illness, it is essential to understand that it is never possible to return to the state we were before it. Any illness points out resistance to change something in us, and whenever we consciously or unconsciously refuse to do it... it changes it for us.

Real healing always involves a change in consciousness.

Therefore we ought actually to see our illness mainly as a very precious indication of what we must let go or what we ought to strive for.

In some cases we must not only change our diet or give up a dependency on nicotine, alcohol or drugs but even our work, familiar abode, or even renounce a partner we cherish but suffocates our inner growth; but more often what we must change are some aspects of our character and personality - which is by no means easier! - a negative attitude, a personal vision of the world as a tragedy play in which we somehow ended up with the role of the victim, some ‘rightful’ and apparently ‘justified’ anger, a sexual or lower emotional obsession, the attachment to a system of belief not kindred with our soul, the identification with a certain conditioning, a compulsion to overachieve in order to overcome a secret sense of inferiority, etc.

Only on realizing what we have to let go of and becoming free from it we grow inwardly and evolve. To heal ourselves we must recover something we lost but we are unaware of, or at least grossly undervalue how important it is, and this new awareness is impossible without widening of our consciousness.

This is why an illness can be our path to salvation.

6.    Healing force within us

Most of when we have a problem immediately begin looking outside ourselves for the solution.

But all the forces of healing are within us, not outside.

7.    Resistance to healing:

Some patients although do wish to get better, at the unconscious level resist the healing process, are attached to their illness, and have a resistance to let the illness go. The most common case is those who did not get enough love as children, passed through an illness which caused their mother to pay extra attention to them for once, and ended up associating being ill to being loved, or at least being cared for. Other common hidden reasons and motivations are:

-     Simply, to get other people's attention;

-     Enjoying playing the role of victim;

-     To emotionally blackmail someone: “See now what you did? You made me ill!” A variation of this is the attempt to make someone else morally indebted with oneself: “I did so much for your sake, sacrificing myself, until I even ruined my health!”

-     To escape one's responsibilities: I can't hold this job/look after my family/do what you are asking me to, etc, BECAUSE I AM ILL! So often people use their illness to escape the demand of others when one lacks the courage to deny them directly;

-     To punish oneself “to escape the punishment of God”. (This tends to occur particularly with patients brought up in Hebraic/Christian cultures). The subject feels guilty for something “bad” that he has done - or even hasn't but was made to feel guilty for breaking some of the traditions of his society. Having been conditioned to expect terrible punishments for this, an eternity of excruciating tortures in hell, forever and ever, at least unconsciously he now feels that as he has already been punished by his illness he will then be spared the much worse punishment of God, therefore the fear of this imaginary punishment causes him to unconsciously resist the healing process.

8.    Decision to be healed:

Ultimately, in both the subconscious and the super conscious: It has been the patient's decision to become ill, and must be his own decision to be healed.

The problem is that he is not yet integrated - otherwise he would not have been sick in the first place, apart from some very rare and special cases - but he is made of many parts and each aspect of his personality has his own little “I”, direction and will.

On some deeper level his spirit has at some time given the “sanction” to pass through the illness and unless his experience in his present body is completed eventually must give the sanction to be healed as well. Only then the right doctor or alternative healer is found, the most effective crystal, Gemstones, ayurvedic potions, acupuncture needle, allopathic medicines or whatever: they are merely like a magic ritual with whom he confirms to himself his decision to be healed, and if he was really aware of he can do so he can just do without any of them and be healed by his decision alone.

“When a person perceives himself as sick, he is perceiving himself as NOT WHOLE, and therefore IN NEED. If you too see him this way you are seeing him as if he were ABSENT from the Kingdom or separated FROM it, thus making the Kingdom ITSELF obscure to BOTH OF YOU. Sickness and separation are not of God, but the Kingdom IS. If you obscure the Kingdom, you are perceiving WHAT IS NOT OF GOD," - A Course in Miracles

9.    Accept neutrally & transform.

How do we find out all which has to be healed in us? If we perceive it as something “evil” we will never be able to heal it adequately: it is an ancient inner law that we cannot transform what we have not first accepted. (Accepting in this sense doesn't mean thinking that it is perfectly OK but not to react with any condemnation, repulsion, harsh judgments, depression, discouragement, etc.)

Some healers, especially those with a background in occultism, see themselves as soldiers (well, at least generals!) waging a war against the massed Asuras and the four knights of the Apocalypse.

With such an attitude they end up raising the levels of fear in their patients and associates, and where healing is concerned fear is the worst possible thing, for it tends to attract exactly what one is afraid of.

Then there are others blithely saying that what has to be healed is anyhow all unreal, illusory, Maya. But seeing it like that we cannot raise in us the right emotional need and loving intensity with the power to transform it. While indeed in the ultimate truth all is absolutely perfect and exactly as it should be, whatever we must heal is still a representation of the forces at play in us.

10.  Planetary healing:

There are two basic approaches:

-     The first is to focus exclusively on the positive, ignoring utterly the negative, on the grounds that whatever we concentrate upon is energized and reinforced. However, whenever the television, newspaper, etc, presents us with terrible images of yet another massacre somewhere these images sink into our unconscious and from there undermine our vision and projections of a perfect world.

-     The second approach is to focus directly on the negative in order to heal it. Ideally we ought to see objectively whatever distortion has to be healed, brought back to the Truth and the Divine Will while remaining always in a state of perfect peace and equanimity, which are the very basis of healing.

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Rohan Singal

Two inspiring stories on leading & mentoring people

Let this note find you shining at your best.

Here are two stories that I found really inspiring in the context of leading, mentoring people. I am sure in more than one way you will be grooming and mentoring some people around you. These stories will give you another perspective – especially dealing with mistakes done by them and also handling some of them who are performing below your expectations!!

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Mistakes are opportunities

This is a story about a famous research scientist who had made several very important medical breakthroughs. He was being interviewed by a newspaper reporter who asked him why he thought he was able to be so much more creative than the average person. What set him so far apart from others?

He responded that, in his opinion, it all came from an experience with his mother that occurred when he was about two years old. He had been trying to remove a bottle of milk from the refrigerator when he lost his grip on the slippery bottle and it fell, spilling its contents all over the kitchen floor—a veritable sea of milk!

When his mother came into the kitchen, instead of yelling at him, giving him a lecture, or punishing him, she said, "Robert, what a great and wonderful mess you have made! I have rarely seen such a huge puddle of milk. Well, the damage has already been done. Would you like to get down and play in the milk for a few minutes before we clean it up?"

Indeed, he did. After a few minutes, his mother said, "You know, Robert, whenever you make a mess like this, eventually you have to clean it up and restore everything to its proper order. So, how would you like to do that? We could use a sponge, a towel, or a mop. Which do you prefer?" He chose the sponge and together they cleaned up the spilled milk.

His mother then said, "You know, what we have here is a failed experiment in how to effectively carry a big milk bottle with two tiny hands. Let's go out in the back yard and fill the bottle with water and see if you can discover a way to carry it without dropping it." The little boy learned that if he grasped the bottle at the top near the lip with both hands, he could carry it without dropping it. What a wonderful lesson!

This renowned scientist then remarked that it was at that moment that he knew he didn't need to be afraid to make mistakes. Instead, he learned that mistakes were just opportunities for learning something new, which is, after all, what scientific experiments are all about. Even if the experiment "doesn't work," we usually learn something valuable from it.

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Teacher & the Student

As she stood in front of her 5th grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children an untruth. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same. However, that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard. Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he did not play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath. In addition, Teddy could be unpleasant. It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and then putting a big "F" at the top of his papers.

At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's past records and she put Teddy's off until last. However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise. Teddy's first grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners... he is a joy to be around.."

His second grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle."

His third grade teacher wrote, "His mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best, but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken."

Teddy's fourth grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and he sometimes sleeps in class."

By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy's. His present was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper that he got from a grocery bag. Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one-quarter full of perfume.. But she stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist.

Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, "Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my Mom used to." After the children left, she cried for at least an hour. On that very day, she quit teaching reading, writing and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children.

Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy. As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her "teacher's pets.."

A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling her that she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life. Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in life.

Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favorite teacher he had ever had in his whole life. Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer....The letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, MD.

The story does not end there. You see, there was yet another letter that spring. Teddy said he had met this girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit at the wedding in the place that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom. Of course, Mrs. Thompson did. And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. Moreover, she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together. They hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard whispered in Mrs. Thompson's ear, "Thank you Mrs. Thompson for believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference."

Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, "Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn't know how to teach until I met you."

(For you that don't know, Teddy Stoddard is the Dr. at Iowa Methodist in Des Moines that has the Stoddard Cancer Wing.)

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Warm regards,

Rohan Singal

The Power of Positive Talk

Here is one of the most inspiring articles I have found on positive thinking. I found the logic really simple, powerful and appropriate. You may find it useful.

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The Power of Positive Talk

I remember my dad teaching me the power of language at a very young age. Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success.

One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. My little eight-year-old brain didn't realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high.

My older cousin, Tammy, was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy's mother also noticed us at the exact time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. I remember my dad's voice over the wind yell, "Bart, Hold on tightly." So I did. The next thing I know, I heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree.

I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, when Tammy's mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, "Tammy, don't fall!" And Tammy did fall. My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image.

In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.

This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can't visualize not doing something. The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that. For example, when I was thirteen years old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn't get it together at that age. I remember hearing the words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, "Don't drop it!"

Naturally, I dropped the ball. My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper "self-talk." They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn't. I'll never make it pro, but I'm now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player, because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career. Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary.

Ask them to hold a pen or pencil. Hand it to them. Now, follow my instructions carefully. Say to them, "Okay, try to drop the pencil." Observe what they do. Most people release their hands and watch the pencil hit the floor. You respond, "You weren't paying attention. I said TRY to drop the pencil. Now please do it again." Most people then pick up the pencil and pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries but fails to drop the pencil.

The point is made. If you tell your brain you will "give it a try," you are actually telling your brain to fail. I have a "no try" rule in my house and with everyone I interact with. Either people will do it or they won't. Either they will be at the party or they won't. I'm brutal when people attempt to lie to me by using the word try. Do they think I don't know they are really telegraphing to the world they have no intention of doing it but they want me to give them brownie points for pretended effort?

You will never hear the words "I'll try" come out of my mouth unless I'm teaching this concept in a seminar. If you "try" and do something, your unconscious mind has permission not to succeed. If I truly can't make a decision I will tell the truth. "Sorry John. I'm not sure if I will be at your party or not. I've got an outstanding commitment. If that falls through, I will be here. Otherwise, I will not. Thanks for the invite."

People respect honesty. So remove the word "try" from your vocabulary.

My dad also told me that psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement. I have no idea if it is true, but the logic holds true. It might take up to seventeen compliments to offset the emotional damage of one harsh criticism. These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children. Ask yourself how many compliments you give yourself daily versus how many criticisms. Heck, I know you are talking to yourself all day long. We all have internal voices that give us direction. So, are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you shortchanging yourself with toxic self-talk like, "I'm fat. Nobody will like me. I'll try this diet. I'm not good enough. I'm so stupid. I'm broke, etc. etc."

If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue.

Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words. Notice when you or other people use them.

But: Negates any words that are stated before it.

Try: Presupposes failure.

If: Presupposes that you may not.

Might: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener..Ø Would Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen.

Should Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen (and implies guilt.)

Could Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.

Can't/Don't: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.

Examples:

Toxic phrase: "Don't drop the ball!"

Likely result: Drops the ball

Better language: "Catch the ball!"

Toxic phrase: "You shouldn't watch so much television."

Likely result: Watches more television.

Better language: "I read too much television makes people slow.”

You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!

Author - unknown

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Warm regards,

Rohan Singal