I
am Rohan Singal, author & leadership coach. I have helped
more than 5000 people across the world to be their best version, have an
enhanced impact & influence on all stake holders, deliver top performance
and build authentic relationships.
I lived through 4 stages in my life:
1. Middle class inferiority complex (Till 15 years): I could not speak in English, was scared of public speaking, came from an average financial background.
2. Chasing Excellence (Till 27 years): I tried my best to cover the inferiority complex by studying hard, attending all classes, scoring good marks, getting selected in reputed colleges like IIT Delhi & IIM Calcutta, being one of the toppers.
Hollowness remained.
3. Making others winners (27 year onwards): I met a mentor Debu who shifted my focus from covering my complex by winning TO accepting myself and making others winners. That was a totally different experience. With that orientation, my performance at work went to a new high, I made a lot of friends as well.
4. Dare to be Authentic (47 year onwards). I had 40+ years of experience avoiding conflicts. Especially with people who mattered in my life. I also felt very resentful with myself and in my head curse the other person who got away with my soft attitude. I decided to learn, embrace conflict & criticism head on. Since then, found better ways.
I learnt that while being passive, avoiding conflicts is detrimental for any leader; being aggressive in a conflict and overriding the other party comes with different costs – you create silent enemies who wish for your failure, ownership gets upwardly delegated to you, people become inauthentic with you; you thus create a drag for your own progress.
There is a better way. You can share your truth authentically without damaging the relationship with key people in your life – at work and outside work. I also learnt that conflict is an advance teacher and is central for any leadership mastery.
As I implemented these concepts, I experienced a lot of freedom, inner coherence, and joy. Best part was that the quality of my relationships – personal & professional went to a new high. With my experiences and exploration with self, at home and with lot of mentee leaders, I wrote a book in 2021 – Hi Conflict! Bye Conflict! how to get teams to collaborate despite conflict.
5. Stopped chasing borrowed goals (50 year onwards). When Covid happened and all
our work came to stand still, I introspected. I realized that most of my life,
I have chased borrowed goals, mostly wanting what others had. I thought that If
I am a good catalyst, I need not own the reactor. I was chasing the goal of
building a successful self-managed company. In March 2020 I removed all those
goals. Then new borrowed goals came online: making YouTube channel, conducting
online sessions, wanting lot of followers, being a public influencer. A shift came
in my life after reading the book “Message from God” by Pradip Mukherji: I
have started settling in “I am enough and I have enough”. Since then:
comparison, jealousy etc has dropped big time and borrowed goals also
dropped. It is so much fun and joy just being myself without any mask. I
have stopped doing all tick-mark activities to please anyone, even to please or
impress my workshop participants😊 and audiences.
The theme of my life thus has been deep personal transformation especially for last 27 years. I realized that it is possible to deliver results as well has have high quality relationships. It is possible to have all of it: to do meaningful work, that the world pays for, that you are good at and that you love doing, Ikigai.
I now coach senior leaders (CXO, CEOs) & promoters to bring out their best version. I love to actively listen, provide them a neutral sounding board. I help them identify and release handbrakes in their leadership journey. I create a safe place for them to express, explore and transform most difficult narratives, internal dialogues & shadows.
I feel very gifted with some key people around me, lessons I have learnt in this life and the ease and peace in life. I have decided to accept and play all the cards that life serves instead of judging them or fighting with them. This makes me smile perennially. The smile and easy sense of humor builds a light environment and puts people at ease, they let go their guard, and switch from protection mode to growth mode. They participate, contribute & learn faster.
I speak business language and understand P&L. I grasp the essence of a business very quickly, having worked in treasury, project finance, running a software firm, doing institutional sales, mentoring senior leaders across the globe.
I help leaders
- work at their best version, with their purpose aligned with the firm
- hold each other accountable to play their best game
- dare to be authentic with difficult people in difficult situations.
- remain centered in turbulent situations & lead the required change
This is done through
- One of one mentoring
- Mastermind sessions (4-6 pax)
- Group
workshops (10-25 pax)
Welcome to this transformational journey.
Magic has begun!!
Rohan Singal
Paid Resources:
Book : Hi Conflict! Bye Conflict!
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Power of intent: Video Pack of 28 videos, 12 hours - How to handle uncontrollables & align with universal force of intention
Free Resources:
- Leadership Conversations: candid interview with senior leaders
- Hi Conflict! Bye Conflict!: Talks & interviews given by Rohan on the book
- Short Stories: 3-5 minutes motivational stories
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